Supporting The Family, Fathers, Mothers & Their Children

Strong families are the bedrock of society and need support so that mothers and fathers can raise their children in stable environments which enhance their health and wellbeing. Life is stressful and at times hectic, it is said that hurry is the enemy of love. We need policies that support parents to raise and educate their children through direct payments so that they can make choices about who will care for their children. The recent government instead of increasing maternity leave actually taxed maternity leave, which was an attack on mothers and children. Some of the biggest regrets people have in later years are that they spent so much time worrying and did not have enough time with their children. Greater working flexibility is very important especially where parents are involved in caring for their children. We know that the economy is important but the economy should exist to serve society so we can live satisfied, happy and fulfilled lives. We need strong communities who support us during difficult times in our lives and help us to shoulder unexpected burdens such as terminal illness or unexpected death and during times of financial hardship and adverse weather such as flooding.The Family

Money can’t buy happiness but it does help to ease the pain.

In respect of housing it is unacceptable that couples are unable to afford to buy a new home and others find themselves in negative equity with mortgage arrears. The imposition of a property tax on one’s principal primary residence is wrong and it is also wrong where a person has a second house which is in negative equity or cannot be sold.

Da and JM 2

Families hardest hit by budget cuts

PUBLISHED 05/12/2011 | 18:32

Minister for Social Protection Joan Burton gives her reaction to the Budget at a press conference in Government Buildings1
Minister for Social Protection Joan Burton gives her reaction to the Budget at a press conference in Government Buildings

A family with four children will be at least 432 euro worse-off a year as anticipated child benefit cuts swept through all sectors of society.

After maintaining payments for the first and second children, the Government announced monthly cuts of 19 euro per month for the third child and 17 euro for the fourth and subsequent kids.

Despite the reduction, Social Protection Minister Joan Burton said she believed Ireland remained strong on welfare rates even in the face of savings of 475 million euro in her department.

“Even after the loss of our economic sovereignty, our core welfare rates remain generous by comparison with our nearest neighbours,” she said.

Calls have repeatedly been made for successive governments to adopt a means test for the child benefit payment but ministers have claimed it would be too cumbersome and costly.

The minister noted the huge difference between rates in Northern Ireland – 102.50 euro a month for the first child and 67.70 euro for additional children.

“I understand that these measures will have implications for some families but I must point out that families at risk of poverty will be more likely to benefit from supplementary child related payment such as child related increases to social welfare payments and the Family Income Supplement. Those payments remain unchanged,” Ms Burton said.

Children’s charity Barnardo’s warned that cuts to child benefits would push more families into poverty and deprivation.

Director of Advocacy Norah Gibbons described the cuts as mean and short-sighted. “We understand that savings must be made but the combination of changes will haunt families on low incomes for many years to come,” she added.

Families with children aged over four will be hit even further with significant cuts to the school allowance for clothing and footwear. Parents will lose 50 euro a year per child aged from four to 11, and 55 euro per child over 12. Families with four children aged 12 and over, for example, stand to lose 220 euro a year, on top of the 432 euro child benefit cuts.

Press Association

It’s time to teach our kids happiness, says psychologist

A Trinity College researcher says students need to develop resilience, by focusing on their strengths.

PUBLISHED 09/10/2014 | 02:30

Trinity psychologist Jolanta Burke says positive psychology should form part of the Irish school curriculum1
Trinity psychologist Jolanta Burke says positive psychology should form part of the Irish school curriculum

Psychologist Jolanta Burke says if you ask most parents what they want for their children, they usually point to happiness.

They may hope that their children will become academic high achievers, but they probably believe that it is more important that they are content.

Jolanta Burke believes not enough attention is paid to what makes children happy in the Irish curriculum, and yet it has a huge bearing on how well they perform in school.

Ms Burke, a psychologist and PhD researcher at Trinity College’s School of Education, believes we should embed positive psychology in the Irish curriculum. She has been advising guidance counsellors on how to use it in schools and says teachers should also receive training.

Positive psychology is defined by Jolanta Burke as the “science of well-being”.

“Until now, psychologists in schools have tended to focus on students with problems. They focus on the students’ weaknesses and how they fall apart.

“Positive psychology looks at the school differently. We look at the top students and learn from them as much as possible, so that we can help the majority of students become better. Rather than focusing on the weaknesses of students, we focus on their strengths.”

Jolanta Burke, who is currently carrying out research into the causes of bullying, says the mental health of adolescents is now a huge issue.

“Teachers are coming across cases of depression among students as young as 11 to 15”, she says.

Jolanta Burke believes teachers should be trained in psychology.

She cites the example of Geelong Grammar School in Melbourne, which adopted positive psychology techniques. A Positive Education department was created in the school. As well as subjects such as Geography and Maths, students are taught life skills such as positive relationships, critical thinking and resilience.

Teachers at the Melbourne school are encouraged to incorporate the science of happiness into their daily classes. Geography teachers discuss the well-being of nations; English teachers highlight King Lear’s character strengths; and PE teachers encourage activities that help students to “let go of grudges”.

Parents at the school are called in and given talks about exercises and activities that can be used to improve their child’s mood.

Jolanta Burke says: “Positive psychology is becoming popular in schools in Britain and the United States. I believe we need to develop an Irish programme.”

The psychologist is keen to emphasise that this is not a “happy clappy” approach, where children are told how wonderful they are.

“It is not about building up self-esteem. That was a mistake among the 1970s generation of parents. They tried to blow up their child’s sef-esteem by telling them how fabulous they were and that they could do anything. That is actually not good for a child because it reduces their resilience.”

The positive psychology programmes in schools place a strong emphasis on developing character strengths and encouraging resilience.

Jolanta Burke believes resilience can be encouraged in three ways:

• children can be taught to bounce back after disappointments – for example, if they fail exams

• they can be taught to build up a shield that protects them from hurt in certain situations

• kids can learn how to keep going and the importance of perseverence when facing up to the challenges in life

The psychologist says perseverance and an attitude of not wanting to give up are hugely important when it comes to performance in schools.

“You might have a talent for music, but unless you are prepared to put the effort in, it can be wasted.”

While Jolanta Burke does not believe in inflating self-esteem, she wants to encourage more positive emotions and a more optimistic outlook.

“An optimistic way of thinking is very important. I am doing research on bullying at the moment, and it is associated with a pessimistic thinking style.

“Adolescents who think optimistically believe adversity is temporary, and that it affects only one aspect of their lives, and they do not tend to blame themselves for the situation.

“Those who are pessimistic believe adversity is permanent and affects all aspects of their lives and that they themselves are to blame. We try to get students to think more optimistically, and this can reduce depression and anxiety.”

Case study — positive guidance

Billy is a sixth year student who struggled though his Junior Cert. His parents are concerned about his attitude and seek help from a guidance counsellor.

Billy doesn’t give much away. However, he does reveal that he hates all his classes apart from PE. He is unhappy with all the negative attention from parents and teachers.

The guidance counsellor tries to open up his mind to change by focusing on positive experiences of school. He asks him what he enjoys, and what his friends see as his strengths. They appreciate how helpful he can be when they are in need and how disciplined he is when preparing for basketball matches.

The counsellor praises him for his sporting achievements, and gets him to talk about his discipline and focus. The guidance counsellor then discusses how he can use the same focus to study for the Leaving Cert.

Irish Independent


Children find a place in our hearts that we never knew we had.

Children need our presence more than our presents.

‘Hurry is the enemy of Love’ Steve Biddulph

Having children is incredibly rewarding but also challenging and exhausting.

When people look back on life they often have regrets that they spent needless hours worrying and didn’t have enough time with their children. I want to be part of creating a society that values motherhood and fatherhood and gives time to parents to be with their children. Maternity leave should be extended and benefits increased. Flexible working arrangements should be made easily accessible to parents of young children. Direct payments should be made to parents to decide whether they want to mind children or avail of formal childcare.

Ma & Joe
Maternity and Paternity Leave and Flexible Working Arrangements



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